Lessons Learned

One month in, I find myself reflecting on the lessons I’ve learned on the road during thus far.  Here are a few of my recent thoughts.

  1. Living on the road gets easier.  There is a big difference between going on a several day or a week-long camping trip and living on the road.  I’m not sure I completely appreciated the difference until we began this journey.  Minor inconveniences that during a week vacation would be easy to brush aside become much more bothersome when you realize that you are going to have to adapt to this inconvenience for the foreseeable future.  The flip side is that once you’re on the road for a while, you begin to adapt and adjust to your new normal pretty quickly (similar to the principle of hedonic adaptation).  Each day it gets a little easier and any fears I have related to this journey lessen.
  2. Fewer things = Less stress.  When you’re living with so few items and in such a small space, there are fewer extraneous things to deal with, clean, put away, maintain, etc.  This also means that there are fewer issues that can crop up.  Of course when issues do crop up, there are often fewer ways to resolve them.  Even with this constraint and with the constraints of not having a permanent home or any sort of regular indoor location in which to relax, unwind, or even bathe, I’m finding that I can pinpoint, understand, and address problems easier and more quickly than when I lived with a house full of items.
  3. Traveling with a two-year old means you don’t get to see everything you want.  Two year olds nap, they get cranky on long tours, they’re not interested in all of the same things as you and will certainly let you know it, they need more sleep, and they like to eat – often.  Our pre-kid traveling itinerary contained many more things in a day than we’re able to do or see with Van.  That being said, although we don’t get to see everything we want, what we do get to see we see through the eyes of a child.  And, we get to see those things with the most important little guy in our world.  That makes all the missed visits worth it.  This leads me to…
  4. Naps trump everything.  What, Van fell asleep in his car seat just minutes before we got to our destination?  Oh well, it looks like we’ll be missing that last tour of the day.  Enough said.
  5. It’s remarkably easy to get mail on the road.  We had heard of general delivery, but never actually used it.  Once we know that we’ll be in a certain area for a few days, I can call the local post office to confirm that they’ll receive general delivery.  One post office in each town will receive and hold mail addressed to you as long as it is sent to the post office via general delivery.  Then, once it has arrived, you go to the post office, show identification, and pick up your mail.  Simple as that!  By my second visit to the Dillard, Georgia post office, they knew my name as I stepped through the door and even gave me my mail after the post office had closed because they didn’t want to make me make another trip down the mountain.  What service!
  6. Any ill feelings I may have ever harbored toward McDonalds have all but disappeared.  Although we haven’t actually eaten anything at a McDonalds on this trip, we’ve made plenty of stops to their parking lot.  Because we’re using an inexpensive cell phone plan, we’ve turned off the data.  In order to check email or, more importantly while traveling, the weather without being charged an arm and a leg, we need to find a free wi-fi spot.  Starbucks and McDonalds provide free wi-fi, but there are many more of the latter than the former, especially where we’ve been traveling.  As long as we can find a McDonalds, we can check email and make sure we’re not in for any torrential downpours.   And it’s probably only a matter of time before we break down and order one of their burgers or shakes.  Alan jokes that Van is not going to realize that McDonalds even serves food – he’ll just think of it as a place to pick up some free internet for a few minutes.
  7. When you have the option, stay at a state or federal campground.  They’re cheaper, they provide many of the same amenities, they’re cheaper, there are more tenters, they’re cheaper.  And did I mention that they’re cheaper?  It is amazing the difference in price we’ve seen for private and public campgrounds separated by only a few miles.  It’s true that many of the private campgrounds have pools and playgrounds and game pavilions, but many of the nice public campgrounds also have playgrounds and pools (or even better, lakes) and nice, hot showers.  While not all public campgrounds have hot showers or even running water, with a little bit of investigating, you can save a lot of money by staying at the nicer public campgrounds.  The one drawback that we’ve seen so far is that private campgrounds are not affected by the sequester or state budget cutbacks.  Public campgrounds are, which is why we had fewer camping options earlier in our trip.  That being said, most of the private campgrounds in those areas were also closed as we were apparently visiting too early in the season.
  8. Eggs in a cooler present several issues.  First, if you buy them in cardboard, the cardboard is quickly rendered useless by the melting ice.  Second, if they find their way towards the bottom of the cooler and become encased in ice, they will freeze and no amount of thawing will turn your egg back to what you once had.  No matter, it’s still edible, but you may not be able to make that nice sunny side up egg you had planned.
  9. Kids don’t need many store-bought toys.  Yes, I knew this already, as I’m sure almost all parents do.  But it wasn’t until this trip that I truly got it.  We packed away boxes of Van’s toys into storage and chose only a handful of small toys that could fit in one box for our trip.  Van has played with a few things from that box over the last month, but the vast majority of the toys we brought have remained untouched.  Instead, he obsesses over rocks, leaves, and sticks (especially sticks).  He also loves climbing steps, over big logs, across bridges, and up and down hills.  Our evenings are spent to the tune of “more sticks, more sticks, more big logs, more big logs” on repeat while Van scours the campsite for sticks and logs to make a fire.  He has plenty of toys at his disposal, just not the ones we packed for him.

Escape to Boone

We weren’t planning to enter North Carolina for a couple more days, but we ran into a number of closed campgrounds due to visiting southwestern Virginia too early in the season (and, in a couple of instances, due to the sequestration).  We did stay at a small, beautiful campground in Grayson Highlands State Park, but it wasn’t until we set up our site that we learned that the water spigots were not yet on for the season and the inviting restrooms with showers were locked. Lack of naps, cold nights, and too much car time led to some truly terrifying screams throughout the night.   After our first (and at this point, only) hellish night on the road, we opted to turn south and find a motel for the following night. The upside to the night was that during one of his screaming fits I slipped out of the van to use the restroom.  The stars were absolutely incredible.  The campground was on the top of a ridge, the sky was clear, and the smattering of tall trees seemed to form a cathedral through which glowing stars were visible in all directions.

Our night in the motel was much less eventful (thankfully) but our dinner left many things to be desired.  We had some eggs that we needed to use and instead of setting up our camp stove on the lawn of the Super 8, we decided to try microwaving them.  I now know that you can microwave eggs, as long as you don’t mind your eggs tasting like cardboard.  After being treated to a “free” breakfast full of things with much too much sugar in them, we spent the day wandering around Boone and Appalachian State College.  It was an awesome day to be in a most excellent town.

Boone, North Carolina

Boone, North Carolina

While Alan ran to the laundromat, Van and I spent a leisurely couple of hours in town and on campus.  Van enjoyed rearranging sticks and pine cones while I caught up on my journaling and watched the students relaxing in hammocks and the happy-go-lucky guy dancing around campus with a large white boombox on his shoulder.  We met Alan for a late (and great) lunch in town and then headed off to our campsite for the next two nights.  It was our first night with a campfire, and we didn’t even need a match to light it!  The ash was still so hot from the last campers that once we set up our sticks and logs, they started smoking and eventually caught fire.  Van got right into the spirit of camping and spent the entire evening collecting sticks for the fire.  He now thinks that he is perpetually on fire duty and continues to collect sticks for us, even when we’re far away from a campsite or a campfire.

Photos from Weeks 1 and 2

Thirteen days in to our journey and Bottling Moonlight has been silent.  We’ve been having a great time, but this living on the road thing takes some getting used to.  We are fortunate enough to have some time to regroup at a lovely home in the mountains of North Georgia and are catching up on things, sorting through our belongings (yes, we packed too much), and relaxing.  I promise to put together some more detailed posts of our first two weeks on the road, but in the mean time, here are some highlights from the past two weeks.

He doesn't quite know what he's in for.

He doesn’t quite know what he’s in for.

Pre-Camping Set-Up

Pre-Camping Set-Up

Van's First Night Camping in the Van

Van’s First Night Camping in the Van

Listening to Americana Music on a Saturday Afternoon at the Floyd Country Store

Listening to Americana Music on a Saturday Afternoon at the Floyd Country Store

Camping Outside of Boone, NC

Camping Outside of Boone, NC

Hiking with Daddy

Hiking with Daddy

Linville Falls

Linville Falls

Moses H. Cone Park on the Blue Ridge Highway

Moses H. Cone Park on the Blue Ridge Highway

He's finally agreeing to wear a hat.  I guess 80 degree days and lots of sun have convinced him.

He’s finally agreeing to wear a hat. I guess 80 degree days and lots of sun have convinced him.

Baaaaa

Baaaaa

New Directions

No – we didn’t decide to join a high school singing group.
I expected this past weekend to provide us with some good conversation fodder and get us thinking more concretely about our plans for the next couple of years, but I’m digging that it also propelled us in a slightly new direction for our travels.  We attended the Mother Earth News Fair – plenty to talk about there later – and camped at Laurel Hill State Park in southwestern Pennsylvania.  The camping is what really gave us some direction.  Let’s put it this way.  There is no way that we will survive without going crazy from sleep deprivation or being beaten senseless by neighboring campers if we decide to camp for three to six months with Van in a tent.  Car alarm – waaahhh!  Flashlight from neighboring camper – waaaahhh!  Scratch an itch – waaahhhh!  Coyotes – waaaahhh!  Subtle readjustment so my arm doesn’t fall asleep – waaahhh!  We love our tent, but I think we’ll save it for shorter jaunts until Van gets a bit older.
Time to start researching camper vans and RVs…